Cheaters & whistle blowers !

I try again & again to avoid blogging on this subject matter due to it's sensitivity. However, it keeps coming back like a scary nightmare, one after the other, i seem to hear and see more people trapped in this vicious cycle of distrust!. If u're still wondering what i'm talking about, Infidelity is the subject matter. I beleive by now, you would be trying to relate to some incident, either to your own self, or a loved one near you. It's a growing problem, one that affects all society, not only the west but our very own eastern society.

While being based in Cairo, i have the pleasure of tapping SatTV channels from "Hotbird Sat" and my favourite show is the Cheaters, at 11.30 GMT +1 on Reality TV, hosted by Joey Greco. It's shocking to see many cheaters out there, being filmed cheating LIVE & being caught & confronted live on air. This brings the question, "Why is adultery so frightening yet so fascinating? "

In part, because we recognize the appeal of it. We grew up in triangles, competing for our mothers’ attention with our fathers and our siblings, and vice versa. That taught us, deep inside, to be terrified of abandonment and to resent sharing. We never quite give up on the childish fantasy that somehow, someday, we'll find someone all our own who wants only us. This destructive fantasy that keeps us looking for love in all the wrong places.

Adultery and infidelity can seem to be nothing more than a delicious indulgence, like chocolate cake. In actuality this "simple pleasure" is more comparable to cocaine – addictive and potentially lethal. Everyone in the family suffers – particularly the children. Potential after effects include broken, homes, shattered trust, lowered self-esteem, illegitimate pregnancies, abortions, sexually transmitted diseases, even suicide."

Having personally lived & befriended atleast 1/4 dozen cheaters, some cheating on their fiancee's, some on their girlfriends/boyfriends and finally the most disgusting lot, cheating on their wives! It's really amazing to note that a growing number of couples seem to have lost their defination for love! It's seems harder to break up and move on, then to take the risk of cheating and staying in an already dead relationship!

Then you have the whistle blowers, stuck in a tricky situation of wanting to do the right thing for the victim while not wanting to put their friend Peter in trouble! How many of you out there actually confront Peter's and Jane and received a pat on you back for your acts? More often then not, u'll loose friendship both ends!

What goes around, comes around! Many cheaters, as i have seen, end up loosing it all; their love, life, respect and whatever dignity left with them! This is probably the justice, for the victims!

Update: It's interesting to note that the adrenalin rush one gets with living on the edge with 2 different women at a time, is impossible to explain! It's a kind of superficial achievment to some, living by this thin thread, ofcourse untill all hell breaks loose and someone decides to blow the whistle! Men will be men, we're all sex hungry whores :D!

P.s - the Peter & Jane quoted here does NOT reflect any real life Peter or Jane :)